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Everything Always

Jan 21, 2021

Victim mentality is a trap that is really hard to get yourself out of. This past year has—understandably—been part of the reason why many of us have fallen into this toxic way of thinking. So in this episode, we’ll be discussing what it might look like to be in that mentality and how to get out of it.

If you’re going through something difficult or dealing with someone difficult, it can be way too easy to fall into a victim mentality. You’ll hear about the sabotage, the root cause, and more that play a part in this way of thinking. Listen in to learn how you might get caught in this and the mindset you need in order to recognize where you are and pull yourself out.

3:05 – 5:21 – Why it’s so important to address victim mentality this year.

5:22 - 10:47 – An open letter to all bio moms who keep their kids from their fathers.

10:48 – 13:19 – What it looks like to have a victim mentality.

13:20 – 16:25– Why we get stuck in negativity and who is really in control.

16:26 – 28:30 -  What happens when you fall into victim mentality and what you’re really seeking.

28:31 – 35:15 - How to move forward from your difficulties.


  • Key signs that you fall into victim mentality.
  • You are in control of yourself and nobody else.
  • The importance of playing the long game.
  • Why we fall into victim mentality.
  • The mindset you need to be in so you can beat victim mentality.


“Sometimes, in order to get out of the thing you’re in that feels so negative, you don’t get to snap your fingers and be like, 'I’m out of here!' You have to play the long game sometimes.” – Mike

“A big thing about victim mentality is that when you complain about something with a friend or somebody and they give you advice, but you always have an excuse.” – Summer

“Negative strength is the least efficient fuel you can run on, but a lot of people get by and move forward on negativity.” – Mike

3 Interesting Clips:

12:30 – 13:42 - A key warning sign of victim mentality.

14:50 – 15:35 -  How to get out of a bad situation and move forward.

17:22 – 18:47 - How victim mentality sabotages you.


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